It goes without saying that men are even more mysterious creatures than women because they aren’t likely to open up as easily as women do. For this reason, let’s consider some facts about men’s inner world which can help us to understand them better and, consequently, communicate with them more effectively.
Men’s psychology
A woman has an immense influence on a man
It is widely believed that a man has all the power in a relationship. As a matter of fact, it’s a myth born by a traditional way of defining his role in a family. A man provides for his family, he is a hunter. Thus, people falsely assume that if a man provides, he has all the power. Competitiveness is an innate masculine quality, he is ready to accept the challenges of other men and conquer the highest peaks. It is an important part of his bravery.
However, the man’s bravery is the most vulnerable in his relationship with a woman. Men aren’t born with the ability to find an approach to women. For this reason, it is much easier for men to demand a higher salary, plan, and engage in business talks that are their top priority. Men are born to face high risks and get maximum profit out of them.
As far as a relationship with a woman is concerned, men’s fear to fail may overwhelm him, and he won’t cope. The majority of men don’t need direct help to earn a living. At the same time, men cannot stimulate themselves as effectively as women do. Do you want your man to earn more and make you happier? Do you want him to hug you more often and prove he really values you? Thus, you have to motivate your man, and every day spent together will be a real joy for you both.
In this respect, we aren’t talking about everyday flattery for your husband. You should create that special atmosphere between you both, motivate him, and he will work miracles for you and even more!
Men like initiative women
Another myth tells us that men should always take the first step. However, in light of the above-mentioned facts, it has nothing to do with reality.
Typically, men consider a relationship with a woman a precise plan. From getting acquainted to routine and family matters. We’ve already mentioned that for men, it’s much easier to fight with another man since the fear of a loss isn’t that deep.
For men, all women are a fortress that is to be approached in a definite way. In the first place, men will make a woman interested in them. Men’s mind is practical; that’s why they need to make up a plan first and make it come true. For men, “a first step” is the actions they take to make a woman interested in them. So, if a man wants to attract women’s attention, he will put his efforts into evoking woman’s interest. But you may be sure that while getting acquainted, he will feel more fear to hear “no” from a woman than, for example, while asking for a promotion.
Therefore, consider this fact. If you make a man understand that you are interested in him (you can just smile at him or say “hi”), you are setting him free of the burden of choice – “to risk his bravery or not.” Undoubtedly, men are by default in love with a woman showing she finds him interesting. Thus, if you meet a man you like, just smile at him! The power of a smile is immense; never forget to use such a powerful weapon.
A man treats a woman as she lets him
No matter how offensive it may sound, but men are merely using women if they allow them to. If you see that your relationship with a man is developing like “he is with me until he finds a better variant,” don’t hesitate and break up. Tell your man about that. In general, most men will react to it quite calmly because this is the way you show your self-respect.
Not all men may distinguish between relationships “We feel happy now” and “We are going to create a family” If you see that a man doesn’t need a long-lasting relationship, tell him about that and draw the final line. Because he is never likely to do that.
Men are innately jealous
If she makes him jealous to get closer to him, the effect will be the opposite.
As we remember, the rivalry is just men’s nature. It is a real trial for a man even to think that somebody can take better care of his sweetheart than him. That’s why causing his jealousy to spur him on is one of the worst variants which will produce just the opposite effect. A man is likely to stop any romantic business with such a woman instead of experiencing such a pain.
To conquer a man, reinforce his ego
Men marry women who believe in them unconditionally.
A worthy man can only be with a woman trusting him completely. Don’t listen to others’ opinions, even if people are laughing at the absurdity of some of your man’s ideas, just believe in him and become his muse! Actually, it’s not that hard to motivate a person you believe, right? Your faith will be his best support and motivation to move on even more ardently. Never preach your man; he doesn’t need another mother. Your man will become successful and rich due to your sincere faithfulness, care, and belief in him!
Thus, tips to remember about men’s psyche:
- never apply unjust methods like causing jealousy to win his attention;
- realize your self-worth and defend your dignity;
- motivate your man by faith and genuine care;
- never be afraid to take some initiative, men adore being desired.
Once you take these points into consideration and try to stick to them while in a relationship with a man, never again will you wonder what secrets are lurking in his mysterious soul.